My Favorite Quotes from Andy Stanley Books

Andy Stanley is one of my favorite teachers. Being the son of Christianity’s heroes of the faith, Charles Stanley, I’m thinking much of the wisdom of his dad must have rubbed off on him. But, after reading many of his books and watching endless hours of his weekly sermons, he has emerged with his own particular teaching style that is seperate and distinct from his dad but still as powerful.

Enjoy these list of some of my favorite quotes from Andy Stanley books.

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“Victims don’t want to be proactive about changing—they want to be proactive about making sure that the person who hurt them pays. And so we spend our energy telling our sad stories rather than taking responsibility for our behavior. Thus we open the door of our hearts and welcome in the Trojan horse of bitterness. And it stands there, a monument, a constant reminder of a debt someone has yet to pay. ”—Enemies of the Heart: Breaking Free from the Four Emotions That Control You
“Think about this for a moment. What would happen if you were to begin speaking to people’s potential rather than their performance? What if you made it a habit to dispense the same type of grace to others as has been poured out on you? What would happen if you intentionally laced your conversations with notions of what could be true of the people around you?”—Visioneering: God’s Blueprint for Developing and Maintaining Vision
“Every arena of life intersects with what’s going on in our hearts. Everything passes through on its way to wherever it’s going. Everything.”—Enemies of the Heart: Breaking Free from the Four Emotions That Control You
“Direction, not intention determines your destination.” —The Principle of the Path: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be
“As leaders, we are never responsible for filling anyone else’s cup. Our responsibility is to empty ours.” ―Deep and Wide: Creating Churches Unchurched People Love to Attend
“I tell the girls in our student ministry, “You don’t really want sex. What you want is intimacy. You want to meet a guy, fall in love, and know you can trust him completely. You want somebody with whom you can share everything there is to know about you without fear of betrayal or rejection. You want to be fully known and to know him fully. Purity now paves the way to intimacy later.” ―The Seven Checkpoints for Student Leaders: Seven Principles Every Teenager Needs to Know
“Just because there isn’t a “Thou shalt not” attached to a situation does not necessarily mean it is a “Thou shalt.” ―Ask It: The Question That Will Revolutionize How You Make Decisions
“You don’t sit around looking for reasons to do the right thing; it’s the bad decisions that require creative reasoning.” ―Ask It: The Question That Will Revolutionize How You Make Decisions
“Grace is the offer of exactly what we do not deserve. Thus, it cannot be recognized or received until we are aware of precisely how undeserving we really are. It is the knowledge of what we do not deserve that allows us to receive grace for what it is. Unmerited. Unearned. Undeserved. For that reason, grace can only be experienced by those who acknowledge they are undeserving.” ―The Grace of God
“Kindness is love’s response to weakness” ―The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating
“One of the primary reasons we don’t seek counsel from the wise people around us is that we already know what we are going to hear—and we just don’t want to hear it.”—Ask It: The Question That Will Revolutionize How You Make Decisions
“Nothing says hypocrite faster than Christians expecting non-Christians to behave like Christians when half the Christians don’t act like it half the time.” ―Deep and Wide: Creating Churches Unchurched People Love to Attend
“If you want to know what people mean by what they say, watch what they do. Actions don’t only speak louder than words; actions should be used to interpret words.” ―Deep and Wide: Creating Churches Unchurched People Love to Attend
“Wealth has some pretty powerful side effects. If wealth were an over-the-counter medicine, there would be bold warnings printed on the packaging. Warning: May cause arrogance. While taking this medicine, extra precaution should be taken not to offend people. If taken for prolonged periods, may impair perception, causing hope to migrate. If you saw a commercial for wealth on TV, it would show pictures of happy people holding hands in the park. Meanwhile, the announcer would be listing all the ways it can ruin your kidneys, rot your stomach, cause sudden heart failure, and destroy your life.”—How to Be Rich: It’s Not What You Have. It’s What You Do With What You Have.
“Knowledge alone makes Christians haughty. Application makes us holy.” ―Deep and Wide: Creating Churches Unchurched People Love to Attend
“Are you the person the person you’re looking for is looking for?” ―The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating
“It is when our hearts are stirred that we become most aware of what they contain.”—It Came from Within!: The Shocking Truth of What Lurks in the Heart
“Here’s a question every angry man and woman needs to consider: How long are you going to allow people you don’t even like — people who are no longer in your life, maybe even people who aren’t even alive anymore — to control your life? How long?”—Enemies of the Heart: Breaking Free from the Four Emotions That Control You
“There are many things I can do, but I have to narrow it down to the one thing I must do. The secret of concentration is elimination.”—Next Generation Leader: 5 Essentials for Those Who Will Shape the Future
“I’ve talked to many individuals who want to discuss their problems. But they don’t really have problems. They have chosen to live in the wrong direction. They don’t need a solution. They need a new direction.” —The Principle of the Path: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be
“Nothing has stolen more dreams, dashed more hopes, broken up more families, and messed up more people psychologically than our propensity to disregard God’s commands regarding sexual purity.” ―Ask It: The Question That Will Revolutionize How You Make Decisions
“We only get one shot at every season of life. Whether or not we learned anything becomes evident in the seasons that follow.” ―The Best Question Ever


About the Author

Communicator, author, and pastor Andy Stanley founded Atlanta-based North Point Ministries in 1995. Today, NPM consists of six churches in the Atlanta area and a network of more than 50 churches around the globe that collectively serve nearly 90,000 people weekly.

A survey of U.S. pastors in Outreach Magazine identified Andy Stanley as one of the top ten most influential living pastors in America.

Andy and his wife, Sandra, have three grown children and live near Atlanta.


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